Our Progams
Common Sense
On the Move
Latest News
Our Fundrasing Projects
Continuing Education
Email us

My Child’s Father, My Child’s Mother

Mother (Baby mama, Baby daddy drama): It helps to remove the negative stereotype of Baby Mama, and Baby Daddy.  Our program uses various perspectives when assessing the consequences of teen parenting for fathers and mothers and the effective it takes on their families as a whole.

Fathers' perspective: What are the consequences for men who father children when they are themselves teenagers?

The mothers' perspective: What resources are potentially available from their partners and how do these resources vary with the age at which the women become mothers?

 Roles of the Fathers. The male partners of teenage mothers tend not to be teens themselves. Even so, they generally are not a consistent source of support for the teenage mothers or their children. Only 20 to 30 percent marry the mother of their child, and only about 20 percent of the nonresident fathers are ordered by the court to pay child support. Those with orders pay only a small fraction of the award amount.

Among those fathers whose children end up on welfare, only about one-third has regular contact with the mother by the time of the birth. Another third have intermittent contact, and the remaining fathers have no involvement whatsoever. Moreover, the father's rate of contact and support declines substantially over time which in most cases leads to anger and resentment.

Young mothers, in particular, have limited support either from the fathers of their children or from other adults. Among all unwed teen parents, about 55 percent of single teen parents live with adult relatives, and less than one-third receive any financial support, including informal support, from the nonresident fathers of their children.

Television shows such as Maury have made it the “norm” to find out who is your “baby daddy.” Without realizing the adverse effects on the parent or the child.

Our program will address today’s issue of single teen unwed parents.  We will provide the resources to avoid the baby mama or daddy drama. Teaching the parents to learn how to effectively communicate and respect each other as a person along with co-parenting, benefit the overall well being of the child, remember your child is watching you. Coping skills with dealing with the parents new partner or love interest.  Tools to cope with the feeling of loneliness, “all by myself”, using the child as a weapon or pawn.  Help with the "I’m too young to be a Grandmother."  and the anger and add financial burden that some time accompanies their son or daughter becoming young parents.

Nationally and locally, there are numerous fatherhood/motherhood programs that strive to meet the various needs of the many different fathers and families. These programs fill the gaps left by social service agencies, which have limited funding, suffer from case overloads, and are unable to offer activities beyond the scope of their responsibilities. There is no one fatherhood program model—some are informal support groups started locally and that meet sporadically, some address the special issues that affect fathers/mothers parenting special needs or adopted children, others are structured to work with fathers holistically to address stressors or behaviors that can affect their abilities to support their children emotionally and financially (such as unemployment, noncustodial, or long-distance dads), and still others work with incarcerated fathers or those involved in family violence. Some are small, local activities while others collaborate with larger social service agencies. The goal of is to provide examples and contact information for communities, faith-based organizations, agencies, or groups of individuals to utilize should they wish to start their own groups. Child welfare agencies can also discover ways to make their agencies more father-friendly. Additionally, to help guide referrals for fathers, these resources provide a means for caseworkers to determine how father-friendly other service providers are.